Wrinkle Free

Many older women reach an age where they find that men their own age are just too old and boring, so they look to younger men who are generally more open to try new things and have a zest for life. After researching this dating trend, younger men are drawn to these older women that often have bodies like a 20yr old, are wrinkle free thanks to Botox, sexy, and very confident. These older women have established careers and know what they want, which makes them more appealing to younger men who may not be as established or settled in their own lives just yet.
Once considered taboo and very controversial by society’s standards, more and more women are dating younger men and loving it. Actress Demi Moore started the trend and never looked back. Before it was men dating younger women that were always the norm, but now women are seeing the advantages of being with a younger man. They may have already had children or been married and now they have a second shot at experiencing some fun and excitement by spending time with a younger guy.
It really comes down to a matter of personal choice and does the other person want the same things out of life as you do. A male friend of mine who is not looking for a serious commitment is currently dating an older woman. He defines this type of relationship as one with no expectations, simply enjoying the moment without any talk of the future. Both have even defined certain boundaries and limits such as her not being allowed to date any other younger men besides him, and it has been working beautifully. What I found fascinating about this duo, is that one can offer the other what one is lacking. The older women can let her hair down at concerts, while the younger man is cultured at an art gallery. Both satisfy each other sexually, and no one is ever jealous or fighting with one another because essentially there is no established commitment.
I guess we can all reflect on this ever growing trend as something to be aware of and not criticize the male or female for choosing to date someone outside their age bracket. Who knows, you may be that person who fits this category during the later stage of your dating life.

Wake Up Call

I must share with you one of my male friend’s dating experiences. Apparently this 31 year old beautiful blond who was a teacher, seemed to be the perfect package for my single friend. Even though it was their first date, he had decided to take her to dinner at a restaurant by the water. It seemed like a great idea since she was stunning with a stellar body. This woman looked and smelled lovely, and everyone stared as they entered the restaurant.

Before being seated she was adamant about sitting at a table close to the water. The table was about to be seated by another couple, which totally pissed her off. Instead of waiting for another table to open up, she headed in their direction yelling “excuse me that’s our table!” My friend was extremely embarrassed to say the least. I mean I can understand if you are on a waiting list for a specific table, but by assuming the table is yours because it’s open is a little presumptuous. Once they settled at a table he said to her, “let’s just chill, I’ve had a long day at work and I’m fine no matter where we sit”. She flipped out and demanded an apology. I guess she felt a little threatened by his tone. My friend was confused as to why she was asking for an apology, so he stood his ground and refused.

By this point she already had ordered her gluten free pizza and a pitcher of Sangria. She was so angry that she never got the apology she was looking for that she stood up, grabbed her purse, and left the table not even saying goodbye. Other diners who were watching close by were pretty shocked by her behavior. The pizza for two arrived at the table and all my buddy could say was “pizza anyone?” Believe it or not, some diners actually passed by his table offering their sympathy. Although she was stunning in the beginning, in the end she ended up being a little crazy. In the future, he has decided that bike rides might be a better first date rather than expensive dinners that put a dent in his wallet.

Dating Etiquette

For all you daters out there, here are some topics you should definitely avoid on the first date, the second, and even the third:

Never talk about past dating experiences while on a date even if you think they’re entertaining. A first date doesn’t care to know about that guy who had an orgasm with his pants still on while you were making out in his Dad’s BMW. Some things are just better left unsaid. If your conversation keeps looping back to your dating horror stories, then a warning sign may go off that perhaps you have bad dating karma and maybe you’re the one with the problem. On the flip side, if you discuss all the fancy restaurants or places you’ve been too, then your date may feel a little intimidated and think you’re more interested in the free dinner than finding a quality mate.

Another big no no is mentioning “the ex”. Over and over again, we blow the first date by bringing up how bad the break up was and all the stuff he didn’t do right etc. Women sometimes mention this to make it clear that they won’t put up with this past behavior in the future. Also, if you’re still talking about your ex boy/girl then your date may think you’re not over it and want no part of being labeled a potential rebound. If your date asks you when your last relationship was and you don’t feel like discussing it you can respond by saying “the past is the past, and what’s important is that I’m here with you now”.

Lastly, negative Debbie Downer (SNL) subjects that are depressing, or conversation killers should not be discussed during the initial stage of dating. In the beginning, it is very important to be upbeat and engaging. We are often attracted to those that have the ability to gravitate upwards in life. You want him or her to walk away from the date feeling uplifted and energized by your company. So try and be aware of practicing dating etiquette at all times so that you land that second date and have an excuse to go out and shop for a hot new outfit!

LET HIM MAKE THE CALL

When a man your interested in calls you, that’s a good sign. In the early stages of dating he who calls more has the most interest, and the least control. So ladies LET HIM CALL YOU! With so much competition from other beautiful women in this city you want to remain a mystery. When you are not calling he’s wondering what your up too or who you are with. If he calls chat for 15 minutes max and let him go saying you have to get to the gym or have a dinner date with the girls. Give him space to chase, remember men are hunters so let them hunt!

This means don’t be sitting by your phone waiting for a call or text to come in seeing if he wants to get together, just keep busy ladies and it will happen. Try and let him be the one to set up the date. If he says lets do dinner Thursday night and hasn’t contacted you the day of then don’t sit around waiting with anticipation. And please don’t call him or text him saying “I thought we were doing something tonight”? If it’s slipped his mind, then maybe he’s not worth your time and perhaps it has slipped your mind too! Remember if he’s dying to see you then he would most likely have a meeting time and place already confirmed. I always remind women that you really don’t have a date unless you have a time.

If he contacts you the next day apologizing for not getting together, act like it’s no big deal and tell him about the amazing night you had out with the girls or whatever else you did that was exciting. It’s way too early to start bitching at him for not calling, rather let him work really hard for the next date. As long as you are in control of your own happiness, this won’t bring you down and before you know it someone else will be calling to take you out. Ladies be that BABE in TOTAL CONTROL of your LIFE and you will be amazed what you will attract!

Friendship First

A while back I dated this guy who was your typical fun loving always in the spotlight kind of guy. We had worked together and I know they say never dip your pen in the company ink but back then that didn’t matter. I had done some mad chasing let me tell you, only to find that his defense would go up each time and he would keep pushing me back.

I was like “What’s your problem?” I knew this guy liked me but he was skeptical and all about having fun. Like most women I liked the challenge and thought I could change his way of thinking somehow and eventually he would want to date me. He always said to me that we needed to be friends first. Back then I didn’t get this and often responded “I got enough friends thank you!”

Eventually we had the opportunity to spend more time together as friends which lead to a solid relationship full of love, fun and passion. So today I can’t stress enough how important it is to be someone’s friend first. If the relationship has started out as casual sex then slow things down and really focus on getting to know the other person especially if you see him/her as long term.

Getting to spend time with someone and learn a little more about them each day is the best part of dating. It is so great to reflect back and see that this relationship lead to us being best friends who shared everything from our goals in life, where we wanted to travel, childhood stories, and our professions etc. So next time you hear “Let’s be friends first” don’t run for the hills, instead embrace the opportunity and be grateful that you can call this person a friend and one day your significant other.

Quick List of Sexy Fixes

Do these right before your date, you will be be thrilled with the difference they can make:

1) Go to a hot hair salon to have your hair washed and styled
2) Get a bikini wax
3) Go to your closest spa for an hour massage
4) Have your makeup done at MAC, apply false eyelashes
5) Take a bath with your favorite scented bath gel, use matching body lotion
6) Dance around the house naked listening to your favorite music
7) Wear a lacy matching bra and panties
8) Have a glass of champagne as your getting ready
9) Wear sheer black thigh high stockings under your skirt
10)Pleasure yourself right before you leave, this will give you that glow and keep you from feeling desperate for sex

These quick sexy fixes will make you feel scrumptious all night long. Time to maximize your sexiness!

A Quality Man

A while ago after I got my hair done one night,I was feeling pretty and also craving the Lobster Salad at Nota Bene. So I thought why not go out and treat myself. I sat at the bar, ordered my dinner and out of no where I was approached by this tall gentlemen who was dressed in a nice suit with a great smile. He opened the conversation with “I’m just about to order a bottle of wine” Being my fun flirty self I responded “would you like me to share it with you?” He laughed and thought I was a bit presumptuous. I knew he was looking for company and didn't want to eat alone so I accepted and he joined me for dinner. His dinner just reached the table when he asked the waiter to send it back to the kitchen until mine was ready as well. I thought wow this man is impressive. It's not everyday you see a guy requesting that his New York Striploin be sent back to the kitchen, unless its overcooked of course.

We chatted and dined for about two hours enjoying a great bottle of red, which I totally forgot the name of since he had been keeping my attention the whole time. After we finished our entrees, he asked for the bill and without hesitation he threw done his Visa for both tabs. At this point I'm like this guy is super cool, a little older but not creepy at all or trying to put the moves on me. I still had a little wine left, and he got up and said he was headed to Yorkville for dessert but never pressured me to join him. We exchanged business cards and I thanked him for a great night. The evening had ended with a warm handshake and he mentioned that it was a pleasure to meet me.

Still kinda shocked that this mans intentions were simply to join a complete stranger for some good conversation and dinner and ask for nothing in return. This had been a great experience for me and worth writing about. To this day we remain friends because he has proved that there are still quality men out there not just looking to get laid.

Dead Swordfish

When I’m hanging out with my close guy friends my favorite thing to do is pick their brains on women and dating. My guy friend recently shared an interesting dating experience he had with a woman. He likes to call this “the deal breaker”.

If you have gotten to the date where sex may come into play, you need to be ready. That means give your girl a shave put on a sexy dress and ooze with sex appeal. If your not wanting to cave just yet then don't shave and leave your pants on!

So my friend and his date were doing the humpty hump however he was doing all the work. In his words, the whole time “she laid there like a dead swordfish”. Big no no ladies!! Sex is an equal activity where both counterparts should be putting in an equal effort. If your not that into him then why are you getting naked with him in the first place? If you have been waiting for this to happen then step it up a notch and rock his world!

Sex should be equally rewarding and both people should be breaking a sweat! After that night, he was like NEXT.

Is that my gum or your gum?

There are things that happen on a date that some people just can’t seem to forget. I myself have experienced situations where I was like “did that just really effin happen?”

For example it’s the end of the date and he’s ready to step up and lean in to give you that kiss you have been anticipating all night. Your lips lock and it tastes minty fresh. Your thinking yum he tastes good…until his gum ends up in your mouth all chewed up and disgusting!! Guys and girls if you can’t kiss someone without spitting your gum into their pie hole then ditch the gum! A kiss should be a nice memory not a time when your looking for the nearest garbage can.

Mr. Swiss

I must share a time when I had been asked to grab some lunch with a guy that had been pursuing me for quite some time. We were friends for now so I was like sure, where to? Apparently Swiss Chalet had been calling his name, so we each settled on a quarter chicken meal, don't forget the gravy.

The conversation was flowing and there was definitely some chemistry brewing. After I had managed to scoff down all my fries and gravy,we asked for the cheque that was something ridiculous like $25.75. I waited to see if he was going to pull out his credit card since he was the one that essentially wanted me..why should I be paying for this greasy lunch?

He opened his mouth with “you want to go dutch”? and then headed to the bathroom. Being a veteran in the hospitality industry I was mortified to ask the waitress to split the bill in two, even though I was probably never ever going to see this person again. I stepped up and payed the bill. When he returned he was very grateful… inside I was laughing.

After that day my friends and I referred to him as “Mr. Swiss”.