Dating Etiquette

For all you daters out there, here are some topics you should definitely avoid on the first date, the second, and even the third:

Never talk about past dating experiences while on a date even if you think they’re entertaining. A first date doesn’t care to know about that guy who had an orgasm with his pants still on while you were making out in his Dad’s BMW. Some things are just better left unsaid. If your conversation keeps looping back to your dating horror stories, then a warning sign may go off that perhaps you have bad dating karma and maybe you’re the one with the problem. On the flip side, if you discuss all the fancy restaurants or places you’ve been too, then your date may feel a little intimidated and think you’re more interested in the free dinner than finding a quality mate.

Another big no no is mentioning “the ex”. Over and over again, we blow the first date by bringing up how bad the break up was and all the stuff he didn’t do right etc. Women sometimes mention this to make it clear that they won’t put up with this past behavior in the future. Also, if you’re still talking about your ex boy/girl then your date may think you’re not over it and want no part of being labeled a potential rebound. If your date asks you when your last relationship was and you don’t feel like discussing it you can respond by saying “the past is the past, and what’s important is that I’m here with you now”.

Lastly, negative Debbie Downer (SNL) subjects that are depressing, or conversation killers should not be discussed during the initial stage of dating. In the beginning, it is very important to be upbeat and engaging. We are often attracted to those that have the ability to gravitate upwards in life. You want him or her to walk away from the date feeling uplifted and energized by your company. So try and be aware of practicing dating etiquette at all times so that you land that second date and have an excuse to go out and shop for a hot new outfit!

LET HIM MAKE THE CALL

When a man your interested in calls you, that’s a good sign. In the early stages of dating he who calls more has the most interest, and the least control. So ladies LET HIM CALL YOU! With so much competition from other beautiful women in this city you want to remain a mystery. When you are not calling he’s wondering what your up too or who you are with. If he calls chat for 15 minutes max and let him go saying you have to get to the gym or have a dinner date with the girls. Give him space to chase, remember men are hunters so let them hunt!

This means don’t be sitting by your phone waiting for a call or text to come in seeing if he wants to get together, just keep busy ladies and it will happen. Try and let him be the one to set up the date. If he says lets do dinner Thursday night and hasn’t contacted you the day of then don’t sit around waiting with anticipation. And please don’t call him or text him saying “I thought we were doing something tonight”? If it’s slipped his mind, then maybe he’s not worth your time and perhaps it has slipped your mind too! Remember if he’s dying to see you then he would most likely have a meeting time and place already confirmed. I always remind women that you really don’t have a date unless you have a time.

If he contacts you the next day apologizing for not getting together, act like it’s no big deal and tell him about the amazing night you had out with the girls or whatever else you did that was exciting. It’s way too early to start bitching at him for not calling, rather let him work really hard for the next date. As long as you are in control of your own happiness, this won’t bring you down and before you know it someone else will be calling to take you out. Ladies be that BABE in TOTAL CONTROL of your LIFE and you will be amazed what you will attract!